A family is only as happy, healthy and secure as their individual members. When one family member experiences mental health issues, substance use disorder or other challenges, its effects can reverberate throughout the entire family. In the face of these challenges, it is important for a family to be a united front and work together to heal and move forward.
Why is family so important for mental health?
Humans are social animals who thrive in community settings. From birth, we are nurtured and supported by our families; they teach us how to tie our shoes, show us right from wrong, and give us a shoulder to cry on on bad days. Despite this, mental health challenges can affect individuals which can reverberate through their entire family. In light of this though, family becomes more important than ever when struggling with mental health issues since our family is who knows us best and will always be there for us.
How can families confront mental health struggles together as a united front?
Family therapy
Family therapy is a great way to handle issues that affect the whole family. The goal of family therapy is to confront and address issues that affect the entire family. Your therapist can help you work together to get to the root of these issues, develop coping and communication skills and learn to forgive each other and move forward as a family.
Family therapy is rooted in family systems therapy, or the idea that families operate in cohesive systems rather than as independent individuals as part of a group. To that end, family therapy examines the issues troubling a family — whether they be divorce, mental or behavioral disorders, substance addiction, grief, chronic illness or surviving a traumatic event — within the context of how the family unit as a whole has been harmed and how it can heal together.
Family counseling can also be done within the context of a family member’s treatment plan. For example, a member of your family may be in an intensive inpatient or outpatient program to treat their mental health disorder. If their mental health struggles have affected you as a family, you can attend weekly family counseling as part of your loved one’s overall treatment. This is beneficial for individual family members and your family unit as a whole; each of you must heal from distressing events in order to heal as a family.
Communication
Communication is one of the only ways you can know what is troubling your family. Make an effort to check in with your family members, and encourage one another to share your feelings when needed. It may take time to reach a point of feeling completely comfortable communicating openly, though. Be patient and understanding, it will be worth it.
Keep these tips in mind when communicating with your family members, especially when you are still in the early days of addressing sensitive issues or becoming comfortable with family therapy:
- Start small. Don’t pressure your family members to communicate if they aren’t ready, otherwise they may never feel ready.
- Keep an open mind. You want your family members to feel like they can come to you with any issues they have.
- Refrain from passing judgement. You may not agree with all of your family’s choices or opinions, but be considerate of their experiences that may be informing their thoughts, feelings and actions.
- Don’t raise your voice or use aggressive language. Children in particular are more perceptive than we may believe, and they can be even more negatively impacted when they feel uncomfortable in their home environment.
- Be honest, and communicate yourself. In order for your family to feel trusting and comfortable enough to communicate about painful family issues, they have to feel like your entire family is open to communicating and moving forward.
- Schedule regular family meetings if that structure will help your family prepare to communicate about difficult topics.
Dedicated family time
Consider the positive impacts of spending dedicated time together as a family. Your teenagers may roll their eyes at the suggestion, but spending more time together will greatly improve your relationship as a family. Take time to really get to know each other and agree on an activity that everyone will enjoy to minimize discomfort or unhappiness. Better yet, rotate who is responsible for finding and planning family activities at whatever cadence you decide. This will keep the family engaged and committed to spending time together, and it will likely lead to new experiences for all of you.
Fun family activities that promote bonding include:
- Taking a cooking class, or even cooking together at home
- Camping and hiking
- Sports games, whether it’s your son’s middle school basketball team or your city’s professional baseball league
- Weekend vacations and road trips
- Movie nights
- Concerts
- Art classes or art therapy
- Game nights
- Trying new restaurants around town
- Family book club
- Home improvement projects — involve your family in choosing the design or decor
- Museums
- Gardening
- Genealogical research
- Community service and volunteering
- Church
- Learning a new language
- Berry picking
- Picnic lunch — either at a local park or in your backyard
- Local theatre plays
- Daily walks around the neighborhood
How can my family start to heal together?
The Light Program offers compassionate treatment to those struggling with their mental health, and we offer a safe and supportive environment for individuals and families alike. Get help for your family today by reaching out at 610-644-6464.
